When your best friend becomes your worst enemy
I started looking up the meaning of “best friend” mainly because we live in an era where nobody seems to remember the meaning of it anymore. Nowadays, people are more interested in sharing their lives, their success, their most inner fears or sorrow with total strangers on social media, but find themselves incapable of sharing a single honest moment with another person who is actually in their lives. I don’t know about you, but I feel more and more alone in this world where people are no longer willing to communicate at a personal level, instead they choose to hide behind a screen and act human, when in fact, they are becoming more and more like robots.
Being aware of this worrying fact I recently found myself tempted to let my guard down and open up to someone I just met, in a sad attempt of finding new real friends, maybe even best friends; how sad that we have to let our guard down to make friends...I thought that being honest, helpful, truthful and warm would insure the success of a friendship, but little did I know, the world doesn’t need bff’s anymore (best friends forever). I am writing this story with a mixture of sadness and amusement towards my own person for being so gullible and so eager to share things that make me who I am with a person who sadly has proven to be arrogant, deceitful, selfish and immature. Besides the disappointment, I am saddened to see that people don’t know how to be best friends for each other anymore and even acting it seems impossible for most.
So, here are a few definitions I found online for the meaning of “best friends”:
“An especially close and trusted friend”, as opposed to “worst enemy”.
“Someone who never gives up on you, someone who won't let you down, someone who listens to you”.
“One's closest and dearest friend”.
“Someone who forgives you”.
“Someone who accepts you for who you are, your perfections and imperfections”.
Thinking about my personal experience and reading these few sentences that highlight one of the most wonderful human interaction, I can’t help but conclude that while very few people have it in themselves to be someone’s best friend, dogs are especially created for the job. Comparing the situation mentioned above with the experience I’ve had with dogs over the years, I have to ask myself, when did a dog lick my hand, but bit me from behind as soon as I turned around? When did a dog acted happy to see me, but then first time I needed help they just left me there? And finally, when do dogs ever make us feel stupid, redundant and small? The answer is a simple one: never.
Looking up on the internet about why dogs have been tamed, I found an article written by Professor Robert Wayne from University of California, saying that the taming of dogs started almost 20 000 years ago when wolves were getting closer to people (because of the animal carcasses left behind) and ended up “staying and evolving together”. So, from early ages, the man and the “dog” became very close and, weather for specific means such as keeping guard or hunting, or for companionship, they stayed together. I could go on talking about their loyalty and pure hearts, but these things have been very much discussed over time and it is a known fact that the dog is a man’s best friend; that is not the issue. But when did man stop being the same for dogs? Best friends, as few as they are nowadays are called that way because they are there when we need them, they listen and don’t judge, they forgive us no matter what. Wouldn’t it be absolutely shocking if your best friend would, all of a sudden, not only betray you, but send you to death or condemn you to a life of decay and torture? Isn’t that concept simply insane?
Further more, I ask you to please try and answer these simple questions:
Would your best friend make you feel invisible and unheard?
Would your best friend leave you for dead in the middle of nowhere with no means of survival?
Would your best friend cast you into a world that is meant to sacrifice you because it has no use for you?
Would your best friend forget all about you and left you alone?
Would your best friend hurt you in a way that left you broken inside and out?
Would you best friend leave you hopeless without the strength of ever believing again?
Now ask yourself this: would your worst enemy do all that to you?
When did people lost their ability to love unconditionally and stop being worthy of such love? And is this new world we are trying so hard to create worth sacrificing such values as empathy, compassion, selflessness, honesty, values that seem the very essence of what makes us human? What have dogs done to us that is so wrong as to forget they were created to be our bffs (best friends forever)? The answer is a simple one: nothing. The saddest part is, dogs will always be our best friends, no matter how much we cast them aside; they will trust those who betray them, they will lick the hand of that who has hurt them and they will stay by our side when the whole world has turned its back on us, because that is the true meaning of being one’s “best friend”.
The message of this article should be a reminder of what can make us happy and where to find the truest best friends we will ever going to have, but also a call for help to put a stop to this infamous betrayal. Please help our best friends by saving them of being born into a world that has no regard for them and has become their enemy!
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Bite of A Friend
Friendship is indeed one of the greatest treasures in life. It is also such a fragile thing. Some last a year. There are also those that last only till you graduate college. Then, some even last a lifetime. However, there are also friendships that are great while they last, because the next thing you know, you’re the next big gossip.
I always wonder why there are just some moments where friends bite their friends, figuratively. Some do it out of envy. Some out of anger, while there are also those who do so to protect a friend.
One common example of negative biting between friends is when your friends one moment, and she’s telling your deepest, darkest secrets to somebody when you’re not looking. Sometimes, this kind of friendship is toxic, so better end it.
However, there are also friends who bite you or do something bad to you with the aim of keeping you from harm. An example would be when a friend lies about something so that you won’t get hurt from the truth. Though the intention is good, sometimes, this still ends badly.
Kiss of An Enemy
They say that the line between love and hate is far too thin to be defined. I think that sometimes this is true. There are times when even an enemy can become a friend or an ally, even if it is just for a single moment. There are also moments where your dear friend can become your worst nemesis.
I think this is the main reason why some people stick to the mantra, “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” This type of situation is a common plot in some chick flicks and movies. In real life, though, this does happen.
Let us be clichéd and use the classic example of a best friend betraying a friend for a guy, only for the betrayed friend to find solace in another ex-girlfriend. This is a scenario that is too much of cliché for it to expect us to exist. But, it does exist. There are moments where your enemy becomes your friend because you find a common ground or may have experienced the same tragic story.
When this happens to you though, you should be wary. Since as they say, love and hate are two sides of the same coin. You may not notice the coin flipping on you.
Which Do I Prefer?
If ever I will be placed in a scenario where I must choose between getting bitten by a friend or being kissed by an enemy (figuratively). I think I’d choose the later. It hurts less when an enemy shows you kindness one moment and revert to being awful the next. This way you won’t expect much of a change from your enemy. However, when a friend whom you trust implicitly turns his or her back on you, then, the hurt can sometimes be crippling.
When your enemy breaks your trust, you won’t feel much since he or she never had it in the first place. When a friend breaks your trust. It hurts and once that trust is broken, it can repair, but will never be the same again.
The main decision though still lies on how grave the betrayal or trust issue is or how great the act of kindness is. In the end, you will still be the one who will decide how things will go from there.
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- Denworth, L. (18 May 2017). When do friends matter most? Psychology Today. Retrieved November 18, 2017, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/friends.
- Degges-White, S. (01 November 2017). Confronting conflict with friends. Psychology Today. Retrieved November 18, 2017, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/lifetime-connections/201711/confronting-conflict-friends.